To your sadness

I’m sorry. I have no idea why your week is bad, or how bad it actually is. I don’t know if you’ve told anyone, if there’s anything that could fix it or if it’s made you rather unpleasant to be around. But I do know that I’m sorry that you’re hurting, or stressed, or exhausted, or grieving, or frustrated, or depressed, or lonely, or scared or lost.

I thought about writing this letter in a couple of different ways. I thought about writing it about the things you could do to feel better: show yourself compassion, go outside and look at the trees, look at a baby photo of yourself. Or I thought about focusing the letter on how the “bad weeks” can actually be pretty beautiful, if you look at them the right way. I almost wrote those letters, and maybe at some point I will, but I think I ended up deciding that I wasn’t writing to make anyone feel better — I just want you to feel heard.

There’s something about humans that makes us crave for our pain to be recognized. There is something inherently good and comforting in having someone say, “Yeah, that sounds really hard,” or, “It really sucks that you have to deal with all that.”

But unfortunately, that’s not always the direction that society pushes us in. We have been taught that bad days are to be silently borne beneath a bright smile; that expressions of pain are uncomfortable.

I want you to know you can feel free to spill your bad day all over the place and wear it on the front of your shirt.

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